no pity here

yesterday i saw a lady who i used to work with back when i was teaching elementary school.  as we were catching up she asked if i had kids.  i reminded her that when i left jackson i was pregnant and then she remembered, asking how carson was doing.  i said, "great!  he's in kindergarten now, but because of his premature birth and cp diagnosis (pretty sure that's the first time i've written that on here, but we've known it now for a long time.  carosn has cerebral palsy.  we treat him no differently than if he didn't have it.  that's the point of this post, so i'll get back to it) anyway, because of all of that we put him in a smaller class to get him started."  as soon as i mentioned the cp she mad a sad face and said, "awe, i'm sorry."  and before i knew it i was saying, "no, not awe and not sorry.  he's amazing, and we don't pity him at all so you shouldn't either."  i didn't mean for it to come out that way but it did.  i wasn't trying to be rude i was just making my point.  i'm pretty sure she got it :) and it really isn't her fault.  it's the response i get from most people.

we went on to have a very nice tennis match and everything was fine but my point is this:  i don't disable my child by taking pity on him.  do we go easy on him till he can do something that may be more difficult for him, sure.  but we always expect the same from him that we expect from brooks.  will carson ever run track or play basketball.  yes, if that's what he wants to do.  do we think he'll end up getting a scholarship to auburn, of course.  maybe georgia tech too, we think he may be an engineer.  something in computers for sure, he can work an iPad, iphone, and my mac like no other kid i know.  carson is like no other kid out there.  there is a dr. seuss quote that i have always thought fit carson to a t.

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go.

sorry for the soapbox post.  but i will never be sorry for telling someone where to put their sad faces and pity for my kids.

here is my current favorite picture of my first miracle.